as kids we were addicted to people who were not able to give us enough love, because they were also hurt. Today we are living in the past. the reallity of our consciousness is that we are not good enough, not loveable enough etc. It is up to you to accept your past whether your convictions are right or wrong. take it with love- you are the only creator of your thoughts and feelings. You created them, honor them. Sadness will transform into love and it will improve every part of your life.